Submit your most pressing Life, Leadership, Relationship, or other quandaries. Each month, I’ll select one to answer in this column. Bonus: you’ll also score 90 juicy minutes of coaching with yours truly.
Q: How do I balance work and life as an entrepreneur when work IS life? How do I run a business, execute self-care, cultivate lasting friendships, invest in my significant other, do the laundry, put dinner on the table… all in a healthy way? ~ Leigh
A: Whoa, Mama! I can practically see the steam coming out of your ears as I picture you running from one thing to the next to the next. So let’s start here: sit down somewhere quiet (yes, I know you don’t have time; do it anyway). Close your eyes. Take a deep breath in, and let it out more slowly than you think necessary. Repeat, for as long as you need.
Now, pour yourself a nice cuppa tea, and let’s you and me have ourselves a chat.
First: I hear you. Being an entrepreneur requires A LOT. It’s not for the faint of heart. It’s for those of us who have great big dreams, and see something for ourselves, our communities, and our world in doing the work our hearts compel us to do. Being an entrepreneur also requires – no, demands – that we take excellent care of ourselves, as opposed to putting our own needs at the bottom of the list. It’s like the analogy that we must “fill our own cups” so as to give to others. This is not optional. Why? Because unless you’re filling your own cup, all you’ve got to offer is backwash, and sister, that ain’t sexy.
Imagine instead, a world in which your cup runneth over. From that place, having your needs met with abundance to spare, what is life like? What’s your business like? Who are you being for your business and those fine humans you choose to share your life with?
From that place, make a list of 10 things you need on a daily basis to support your physical, emotional, social, and spiritual health. Put your list where you can see it, and do the things. That’s right: no drama, just do the things. Predictably, there will be obstacles. Keep trucking along, give yourself some grace, and get yourself supported however you need.
Try it for a month. See what shifts.
Too your greatness,
What’s troubling you, love? Send me a note at email@example.com. Let’s get you moving from stuck on the Good Girl sidelines, to empowered and brilliantly owning your Grown-Ass greatness.