Have you put everything you have into starting a business and then found yourself wondering, “Is this really what I’m supposed to be doing?” If so, you are not alone.
We tend to pour all of ourselves into making our entrepreneurial enterprises flourish, and our work is often a direct reflection of ourselves. So, when we begin questioning the legitimacy of our businesses, it can be debilitating because on some level we are likewise questioning ourselves.
Every business has its ups and downs, and mine was having a slow month. As I crunched the numbers, I began to wonder if I was really providing a service that my community wanted.
I’m a music teacher who opened my own instruction space. My focus is not only on music, but on amplifying confidence in the students that enroll in my programs, particularly women. My goal is to use music as a tool to make connections, ignite passions, and encourage boldness and bravery, all while providing a very uplifting and supportive environment. But when I was having a particularly hard time filling one of my classes, I began to question why I was struggling.
When I first started down the path of using music to amplify confidence, I did what I call “following the white rabbit.” I’d keep my eyes and mind open to meeting new people, experiencing new things, and following signs pointing me in a certain direction. I had no idea where my career path was leading: one clue just led me to the next and before too long I had created an entirely unique occupation for myself. The clues could be the smallest little details, like buying a book on impulse that ends up speaking deeply to you or meeting someone that is looking for the exact thing in which you are an expert while standing in line at the Farmer’s market.
I have found that if I expect these coincidences to appear, they will.
In the midst of my struggle, it dawned on me that it had been a while since I had one of those magical moments. So, I just flat out verbalized my question: “Am I doing what I’m supposed to be doing? Please give me a sign!
The next day, I came to work and before I even got out of my car I noticed a gorgeous orange and yellow lily that had bloomed for the first time since it was planted. I stopped to check it out. As I did, I was quickly jolted out of my wonder of nature by an ant biting me. For some people, that would be an annoyance. For me, however, it was just the sign I needed.
You see, after I first opened the Music Lab, I discovered thousands of sugar ants on the kitchen counter and then when I went home, there were even more tiny ants in my kitchen window.
Remembering that I had asked for a sign, I researched the creatures marching their way throughout my day by Googling “Ant Symbolism ” The first thing to pop up said: “Consider that all good things come with time and effort. Work with diligence, work with conviction and work with others in order to forge your dreams into a reality.”
When I researched the lily, I learned that a perennial lily is one of the few flowers that is never truly dormant. A lily also symbolizes embracing your own power and acknowledging the fact that renewal and rebirth is just around the corner.
These were all things that I needed to hear and see to keep my ass in gear and maintain a big picture perspective.
When you start to doubt yourself, never underestimate the power of intention. Even if the spiritual stuff isn’t your forte, be willing to look for signs to guide you when you feel lost. Don’t discount your own power and pay attention to those little clues in life that lead you to the next thing. It doesn’t have to be a profoundly impactful event.
Acknowledge those little nudges occurring all around you on a daily basis and trust that you are fully capable of finding your way.